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After the Loss
Some of these were given by Sister Monica Ann Lucas in: "Grief - The Healing Pain of Profound Loss" Healing...
1. Do Not condemn yourself. "If Onlys" serve to slow the process of getting ourselves back in balance.
2. Do Not drug yourself - it is easy for others to try to ease our pain by giving us pills, tranquilizers, etc. This only takes away the sharp ache - it leaves the dull pain for a longer time.
3. Take one day at a time.
4. Set Limits and Be Realistic - do only the things which are meaningful to ourselves and our family.
5. Do Not cross bridges until you come to them - it is best to make no major decisions when you are off balance. Try not to anticipate problems - give yourself plenty of time to get your perspective back on track.
6. Do Not withdraw - we need others. It is time to tell people our needs and treat ourselves with loving care.
7. Attend to other people's intentions - not their words.
8. Do Not run away - a long trip is just packing your emotions and loss into a suitcase. The best place for readjustment is at home.
9. Let yourself feel! Stop yourself from saying " I Should Feel Better Already."
~ Everyone heals in their own way. There is no right or wrong way to deal with a loss.~ Sometimes, behavior that may seem odd to others and embarrassing may be us healing in our own manner.
~ Do Not let others make you feel that you need to heal in a particular manner. In time, you will heal, when you are ready.
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